I really think that we can make it, Girl

[Raine]

Oh one more thing on the issuing the reality check waking them up: you need to be sure you are 100% done. Because it may not wake her up. It may push her down the path of never coming back to you. I think LBS get to the point they are done and they are ready for the relationship to be over. They issue the reality check because it is genuinely how they feel. They are ready to divorce. They expect divorce. And perhaps it is then that the MLCer does realize this is real and tries to turn the spouse back, and the spouses heart softens. The LBS likely goes through a lot to get to that point and the MLcer sees it. I think in some cases the MLCer may even suspect it's coming. The problem is if you do this to manipulate your spouse into having that reaction, she may not. She may be at the point in her journey where she wants to walk away and you've now given her the relief to do so, guilt free, because it's what you said you want.