DM, I know this is difficult for you. People who want control often manipulate, we all manipulate at some time but people who are uncomfortable when they feel they aren't in control manipulate as a part of their daily existence. That's how they get back into control. You may not be manipulating as much as your W contends but apparently she's been there done that with you before and is afraid to go back to that.
Manipulative behaviors can be playing the victim, using blame and guilt, buttering people up, bullying. Do you see any of that in the conversation with your W?
I thought the conversation was going to be only about your S. How did it veer to your W and her coming home, etc? Do you think it might have been better to say, "I'm only prepared to talk about S today. I don't want to get sidetracked from this important issue."
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
