The way I look at it is to give up hope. Live my life, accept my faults in the M continue to work on them for my next R whether it be someone else or my W. It's still in my mind DB to a point.

But at the same time I'm not going to continue to pass up opportunity s to enjoy time with OW in the fear that it will make my W mad.

And your right I was resentful that she never accepted her part and that's because she didn't need to. I begged pleaded manipulated her with words to get her to always come back. So there was never a reason for her to accept anything.

Feedback is appreciated. I know that this is a forum to save marriages, but I think this is the best way to detach for me personally.

Me:34
W:26
Together:5yrs
M:6/4/11
1st bomb 11/11
2nd bomb 1/21/13
W files for D 3/18/13
She's living with her mom
S:13 Previous marriage
S:11 Previous marriage
She has OM Previous FWB