He is the one that brought up the past while we were talking.
When I first moved in with him, he was completely disinterested in taking care of his finances. It was the typical credit card scenario, buy but don't/forget to pay the bill or balance bank acct. Since I was living with him, rent free, I offered to help get his finances back on track and he never looked back. Since then, whenever I tried to get him to work on the finances, he would be interested for a day and then stop.
He admitted that he relied to much on his folks to help him get up when he fell. (His mom admits to helping too much.) The only time he lived on his own, it was in his grandparents home that his parents owned and he was only responsible for utilities. He now wants the chance to pay his bills, own a home, do what he wants and come home to no one.
When he left last year, he moved in with a buddy and still didn't take care of finances or "pay rent."
If I could move out, I would. Unfortunately, I don't have the monthly cash available to rent a place.
Thanks for the advice. I'm going to look deeper into what I can/can't afford and see if I can "remove myself." It's a scary thought but I've been coming to the conclusion its something I HAVE to do.
Arg!
Me39 H35 M8 T14 Early 5/12 H FB post re: his love for me. End 5/12 H done trying, writes "Dear John" letter 6/12 Wants D, calls ATTY, no file 1/13 Loves me, wants to try, moves home 3/13 Changes mind
