Thanks to KD... read this on another post... good to remember!
//Healing begins when the LBS is ready. No sooner, no later. And it happens through forgiving.
While we may not say that we "forgive" our spouse for cheating, or leaving the M, or saying hurtful things, we begin to accept those things as simple facts. Through compassion, we understand that our spouses made choices that, while they may appear to us as inappropriate, they were simply choices that the WAS / MLCer made as "the best they knew how, at the time". Understanding that they too, are going through pain, even though we may not understand it. And through that acceptance and compassion, we stop taking it personally... and we can can forgive...
And we heal...
And... by healing... we change the sitch... and... who knows...//
GREAT post! thanks KD and thank for sharing wfm!
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.. wish I didn't have to work with him AT ALL!...
I feel the same too!...but on the other hand I still feel lucky I have a good job and still have it 'till now. Must be tough looking for a "good" job (that you like) these days...so I thought I should better keep my personal issues aside and do business/job professionally as I can...It's not easy but it can be done!...I hope!
Hope you are well wfm.
Me50 H53 S22 M23 2007 1st BD May 2011 2nd BD Aug 2011 Moved out(wants space) Feb 2012 came back (wants to work things out) Sept2012 moved out Oct 2012 found out OW but denies March 2013 Admits OW
