I didn't know there was a "The Five Languages of Apology".
I know she is "Words of Affirmation"
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W text me: W: Will you be having the boys in the next public holiday? T1000: I will have them the Sunday night, Monday morning. Does that work for you? W: Not really but I will sort something out T1000: What do you want?
Waiting to hear back.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
I feel awful right now. I totally messed this week up big time! I know I need to accept what I did and move on but I'm so annoyed at myself!!
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
W: I want to be able to have more than two whole days rest. But it's fine. My parents can watch them til the afternoon. T1000: I will bring them back later on if it helps.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
I tried the 5 Apology Langauges: I scored highly on "Expressing Regret".
Unless someone can convince me otherwise I'm going with something like:
"I deeply regret how I behaved and how I treated you on Wednesday. I am so very sorry." "If there is anything I can do to make it up to you please let me know?" "Can you forgive me?"
I can't wait to get there and get this done. It's eating me. I need to have no expectations, much easier said than done. I think I need to go in there with the full intention of delivering the apology as best and sincerely as I can and be ready for anything. I have to accept that a frosty negative response is just as likely as anything and be ready to leave with nothing. This could be the final nail. It always feels the final nail.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
You need to figure out her apology-language and that can be quite difficult IMO. Your own isn’t that important right now – it is hers that count! Perhaps you should just go with all 5 of them to be sure to hit the right one!
It does make a good apology/statement if you are able to keep it short an focused!
Me:44 W:43 D7, D5 (S11 from other R)
T: 8y - not M ILYB: 8. Mar 2013 W moved: 1. Aug 2013 LRT: 20. Aug 2013 _______________________________ Do or do not – there’s no try.
It feels quite strange posting this apology on here. It feels needy and pursuing.
I think this covers it all, I plan on asking her for a word in the other room, take both her hands, look her in the eye and say:
"I deeply regret how I treated you. I am so sorry. There is no excuse. I hate what I did and I don't want to do that to you ever again. I value our relationship, what can I do to make this right?
Will you forgive me?"
I have never done something like this before with W. This could a total 180 in the way I do it. I would always have apologised with space between us in the past. I might have needed to apologize before but never with being as close as I could. Never with touch and full eye contact. I always felt like I didn't have permission to do that unless we were getting on. She might pull away and I will just have to accept that and carry on.
I find it hard to say what her apology language is. The only thing I can think of is, when others have wronged her she wants that person to come to her in person and say sorry for what they did.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
"I deeply regret how I treated you. I am so sorry. There is no excuse. I hate what I did and I don't want to do that to you ever again. I value our relationship, what can I do to make this right? Will you forgive me?"
If you didn't have a textbook to pull the phrase out from, how would you apologize?
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