So the last time I had popped by your topic, it was very specific to discuss what I'd seen you posting at that time.
I had a chance to skim your full thread (BTW, you probably should start a new one before the moderators lock this one for being over 100 posts).
If you would like someone to affirm that your H is likely MLC or at least in life transition and borderline MLC, I am willing to say that.
At the end of the day though, keep doing the work you are doing. Trust in the recommendations of the DB coach. It will serve you well.
It is possible that even if you filed D and everything went through, your H would continue to behave exactly as he is, for some time to come. Not because of what you are or are not doing, but because while he is working through his own stuff, he assumes that the rest of the world is staying exactly the same.
It remains entirely up to you if you want to continue to stand for the M or to "give up" and move on. Whether WAS or MLC, it is possible that your H may eventually want to R due to your own personal growth as well as your H realizing that life isn't better "out there".
Right now, do you have any clear determination as to whether you wish to continue to stand or accept the D as inevitable and wish to move forward accordingly?
