I thought it was funny that you're having a party because I am the same. I am not the one to organize parties. That was more Hs thing. Last year I decided to have TWO parties without his help and we had the EXACT same conversation you and your H had about it! LOL!
He was shocked I was doing this on my own and also questioned whether he should attend. He didn't attend either event. He later told me he had parked outside and saw me dancing with D1 and wished he could join us but wasn't comfortable about it.
Not too long ago we had another talk about vacationing. Me with the kids (minus H). He let me know that when I brought it up to him it hurt him. Funny! I thought he wanted us to separate that means we don't vacation together, right??
Finally, don't jump onto those conclusions you're making. (I'm not helping with the above notes) but just remember that H is confused and he will say and do things that don't match. He's even more confused than you are with his actions/words.
Continue to take care of yourself
M 42 H 39 T10 (-2yrs separation) S8 D5 DD 7/30/11 (EA&PA) Reconciled 6/2013 Separation in works 1/2017
