Originally Posted By: cbtdad
"As long as there is another man in your life I do not want to talk about anything other than what needs to be discussed about son. I hope you can respect that and please stop"
Then I AM GOING TO DO IT!!


And then you are going to do what?

The thing about a boundary is it has to be for you. To protect you and not to punish her. It also has to have an action associated with it that will has to be enforced or it means nothing.

This is something Mach wrote to JP - thought it might be helpful to you..

Wife, I will no longer allow MYSELF to be in a relationship, where my partner chooses to engage herself physically, and emotionally with another man....

If you can say this, and actually mean what you say, and your actions can back it up, then you are not stating a boundary to punish her in any way.

You are saying it to protect yourself, and the marriage.

You aren't saying who she can be friends with that way, you are only stating that IF she continues to make that choice (physically and emotionally), then you will not be around her....
Look, you have already given her your words, that you cannot have that in your life.....right ???

Now is the time for action instead of just more words.

Because you said it already, now is the time to live it.

That is what I was saying earlier. Enforcing your boundary is the most important part....

If you don't ???

They become more meaningless words from you...

So kick back, STFU, and get on with yourself for now...