Roller coaster? When the first bomb dropped i thought it was all me but W didnt share the EA till almost a month after. Then for the last week it was all emotions and anger. Well then we had 3 what seemed like good days of what thought was a try at healing .. she dropped the second bomb of her appt with lawyer. I know this is short compared to many on here - but I just feel I have to realistically get my kind set for the worst.
steveh27, that's the exact timeline I had. I was told she was done and I needed to move out, then a month later she told me about the EA that had been going on for months.
You have got to figure out a way to detach and not react emotionally to this stuff. If that means turning ALL emotions off, then do it...at least for now. You need to get control of yourself ASAP.
I was posting about this very same topic earlier in the week, but the WAW seems like she is in a big hurry, doesn't she? I think it's a combination of 1) them feeling bottled up for so long, and 2) because they have their own insecurities about their feelings. Her feelings to D are strong RIGHT NOW! And she wants to act while she feels strongly because she's afraid her feelings will change or she realizes that these aren't true and rational feelings. So the WAW has to strike while the iron is hot!
It seems very irrational, but - just from reading this MB - also seems to be very typical behavior. That probably isn't very comforting, but at least know that you aren't alone here!
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
