I am struggling again on the path to take. I have been continuing my upbeat behavior and being nice when he is nice. However, I notice I have to fight the irritability – my own that is. He seems comfortable around the house. I still see the unhappiness but we are really only around each other 2-3 hours a day on the weekdays. However, the more comfortable he seems the more irritable I am getting.
So I have two issues – first minor, I want to go to the movies again this weekend. I feel compelled to invite him but last week was yucky and I wish he hadn’t gone. He clearly did not seem to want to be there – so why did he go? I have two theories the first he just wanted to ruin it for me and the second he wanted to look like he was trying for his daughter. So do I just tell them I am going to the movies? Do I invite them? I know she won’t go. Thoughts please.
The other issue, I want to go away for the Memorial Day weekend but I really am concerned. I am fine going away by myself. I am afraid he is going to suggest I take his daughter and leave him at home. Fine, but I do not want the OW in my house. I just don’t. I am also afraid that I will need the time off later in the month because he might become a jerk and I will want to get away. Please let me know what you all think on this as well.
I don’t have an appointment with my coach until next week and by then it might be too late to make Memorial Day plans.
