These quotes were posted in 2010 and 2011. They really touched my heart, as most of my friends and relatives think I'm an idiot for letting my H come home after he left me for 2 weeks to be with the Russian Tramp OW.
"In an aggressive society, many people live believing that if you do not 'stand up for yourself' that you are a doormat. However, in choosing to live your own life, be responsible for your own actions, exhibiting self control instead of going off half cocked because of some injustice or wallowing in a pit of self pity, while your MLCer lives life, you ARE standing up for yourself."
"Until the MLC starts showing positive and real signs of coming back...boundaries and consquences hurt you and what you think you want, more than they hurt them. You are pushing them and pressuring them to assuage your own desires, regarding them in a relationship role they have shown you...they currently do not want."
"Your goal is to outlast their MLC. Their confusion and their selfishness. You're not going to get them to stop, and if you try you usually hasten them along and further into their selfishness and tunnel. You demand from them, and they run away from your demands, ignore them or decide they are better off without you controlling them."
"You accept these bad behaviours with an eye on your prize, you came to Divorce Busting for a reason. It was to stop your divorce...it isn't called...say Affair Busting. So get used to the idea of getting used to bad behaviours."
Linda
Me 65, Ex 64 M 38 y 2 adult S, 4 G-Kids MLC 11/07 BD 12/09 D 3/14 Dating nice guy 7/14 Engaged to nice guy 12/17
