- take following 3 weeks off all R work and "just be"
How's this ^^^^^ working for you, so far?
It's about how I expected honestly. We're not actively discussing our relationship right now, but I am holding my ground not being a part of this if OM is still in the picture.
And yeah, I snooped, but we already agreed to transparency so I don't think it's out of bounds. There's a little check and balance at this point as we both rebuild trust.
Originally Posted By: Mach1
I think you need to stand hard in this.
Yes, she will buck back a little
Reiterate your stance to her again, and that this is not healthy for the Marriage.
Talk through it, and listen to her reasons too.
Communication is the key now.....
Thanks Mach1....I think that's pretty much what I did. I told her it wasn't a fight, but a serious issue in our M we needed to work thru and I was willing to do that calmly and lovingly.
She didn't respond, but within an hour, she sent OM an email, copying me, saying "do not try to contact me via text or calls. All contact should be via email and only pertaining to deals we're currently in together. After those deals conclude, there will be no further contact whatsoever."
She then sent me a text saying "I did what I had to do to keep you." She apologized saying she is trying to change some things and they are going to take a lot of time, and thanked me for understanding her. I thanked her for respecting me and our marriage.
So all in all, goodness....we just have to stay the path and follow thru.
