Adivna - Very good points I need to keep in mind during my path forward too.
PM - So hard to wade through all this stuff. My Mrs. has apologized so many times for not speaking up sooner it's making me want to vomit because I'm like if you're sorry and I'm sorry and you're seeing, noticing and commenting on my changes then let's just slow it down!!!!
She's just got it in her mind that the only solution that is best for her is D. She's just now getting back into the emotional side of the loss of our relationship and is in the same position as your wife in that she's convinced herself it's impossible to ever have the feelings a wife would have for her husband.
I guess I'm just going to have to wade in the fire and bide my time.....
My humble opinion is that if a WAW says they need space and independence, then you do what you have to to give it to them. They've linked their personal unhappiness to you and/or your marriage, and they may or may not find that to be true, but they HAVE TO get the chance to find that out. Fighting that battle is a guaranteed loss for the LBH.
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
