Lil, If your h is in mlc, it will take many months before there is any sign of improvement. Detaching is for you, not to get him to notice what you are or are not doing. You need to keep the focus on you and your life as you move forward. Are you doing things to keep yourself busy? Focusing on him and his every word or move is considered analyzing and believe me, it will drive you nuts.
Baby steps will come, but he's not there yet in the way that you think he should be. Replay takes a long time and right now, he's out in orbit. The process can't be rushed and he's definitely not on your timeclock. His clock is extremely slow.
Cointinue to detach, focus on you and your life and yes, please, please dig deeper for patience. This is a very long journey, not just for him, but for you as well.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
