I don't know if this will help or not. My wife does not care how I feel (right now). I used to think that if I told her how I felt or that I was feeling the same way she was that it would validate her feelings and make her feel less alone. It doesn't.
Right now, she doesn't care about my feelings. Instead, when she hears me talk about my feelings it makes her think that I'm not trying to understand her feelings. It also makes the point that my feelings are more important than hers. Intent does not matter.
When my wife wants to talk about her feelings, I let her. If I need to talk about my feelings, I find someone else. It was my 180. My wife could not (and cannot) handle her feelings and my feelings at the same time.
It does not seem fair that my feelings don't matter to her right now. No one ever said it was supposed to be fair though. Be there for her. Don't expect her to be there for you.
