Sigh....well, we ain't out of the woods yet. While W agreed to all the boundaries Sat, she's really not been telling me about the contact unless I ask. I do need to give her a little more time to see how she does, but so far, it's a struggle.
This morning I was grabbing the ipad and her phone buzzed...I looked at it and OM had texted her. I went ahead and took a look...she walked in and I said, "hey, I'm looking at your phone." She was irritated because I had agreed to ask her first, but she didn't throw a fit.
Lots of chase from OM...ILU, thinking of you, etc etc. Pretty much everything I'm sure he could think of to open the window back up. For the most part, she has ignored, but over the last few days, she's started to respond to some things...innocently at this point, but to me, it's cracking the window open.
After discussing for a few minutes (she had an explanation for everything...but she always has), I told her to either write him a letter indicating no contact outside of business and that can be done via email...no more text, no more calls, or to hash out the rest of the D because I won't go back to that type of relationship. She's stomping around now mad, so we'll see what happens.
