BANG! Bomb Drop Number Two

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Hi AJ, yes you are correct i will take this down. I didn't load a photo or any specific detail, but i guess there is probably enough for my W to make an intelligent guess. Plus its distracting me.

I think I am just very confused at the moment as my W is 80% of the time being great to be around. We are having fun, eating together, cooking for each other, doing things at weekends with the kids.

We are the perfect flat mates. Separate rooms, no physical contact or exchange of anything loving, sharing household expenses but making our own decisions about our own purchases.

When she does get upset its usually because things are not going to plan for her, or she is feeling panicky or upset. The blame or mood is directed at me, but I now know not to take this personally.

I think its the missing physical and loving contact that has made me look ahead and wonder whats out there. I feel like i need this back, and as much as I would rather it be my W, if that's not to be then I needed reassurance that i've not had my lifes quota.

Plus the overhanging unknowing of my W's trip away. Is she meeting a friend, spending it with OM, or just meeting OM for a short period?

As FY said, his W is always pleasant and excited about getting away, and I don't blame my W, she is stuck in the house with the kids and this must be a huge escape for her - she deserves it. But I also have doubts about whether its the limerence kicking in before a meet up.

I knew this trip away would challenge my detachment. I am feeling okay about it right now, but its starting to play on my mind a little.

I am determined however not to ask questions, not to look concerned, not to act nervy around W about this. I will not let this ruin any progress made.

She is just starting to share things with me, ie show me things she has bought (before she would just assume its not my business), she asks how i am, tells me when she is taking lunch. I take these things as a good sign.

She also slips up occasionally, 90% of the time she talks about being apart and having to take responsibility about out own decisions and issues. Sometimes however she will say things joke about things like, 'don't ever wear anything like that, it will reflect badly on me' followed by a quick - 'well, i guess its up to you now'. I don't read into this, but i think is shows she has not moved on 100% yet, or forgets we are heading towards D.

Wow - that was an offload! I'll go and take my dating profile down now