It was indeed. I had six hours in the car today and it was a much better ride home than there...

On the spontaneity, I used to surprise her fairly often. I would line up sitters, or her mom, and set up overnights, date nights, etc. I used to do a lot of cards, notes, etc. I think the reason I stopped was resentment on my end that it was all one way. Would it kill her to write me a nice card or letter? Or buy me a small gift? Or set something up all on her own? I see her write nice cards to her friends, and she will make heavan and earth move to do something she really wants to do, but there is a blind spot for her where I am concerned and it burned me out.

She did say tonight that she has something planned for making up to me for making the play, so that was encouraging. And we did go walk the dog tonight, which I love. Life's little victories, right?

Therapy tomorrow, which I am really looking forward to. I still think she has forgotten based on her folks coming over, but we shall see.

CB

PS - Thanks again KD for your help!

Me; 42, W; 43
M; 16 yrs
S12, D9

3/13 - "I want to move to XYZ City (four hours away) and it might be without you, not sure"
5/13 - "Not sure I meant that"