DM45 LBS 4

[Dm45]

Texted wife today, to ask about talking in front of C. She said still on wait list. That's about what I expected for some reason. I asked if she's still afraid to talk to me, and she said she'd just feel better with someone else there.

I asked "Are you saying you don't want to see me at all now without someone else there?" she said that is how she feels right now. I said I don't understand, asked what did I do. She said I didn't do anything she just feels intimidated.

I said that breaks my heart. She said she's sorry, it's not because she's afraid of me, it's more that she can't express her feelings clearly without getting all jumbled up.

I asked how will someone else help with that, she said she just thinks it will.

I ended with "Well I guess the ball's in your court. We know lots of people. Not all of them would we need to pay."

About 2 hrs later I got a call from my B that my uncle, age 52 and grandfather, 90 were in a car accident and flown to hospital. Texted her to let her know. She called me immediately, tearful about it. Told her what I knew. She then asked if she could come over and talk tomorrow, just her and I. I said of course. She said maybe we can stay on task.

I don't know what she means. I am trying not to MINDREAD. I will start off by letting her decide what we talk about. Presumably S16.

What I think is best for him:

Living in a home with 2 loving parents while attending counseling. Possibly military school or some other alternative. Been reading up on that.

If that's not possible, living with her, not drunk OM who doesn't see anything wrong with living with a married woman. Need to word that better. Counseling

If not that, then I think it's best he be back home with me. Counseling.

I really have no plan, other than to try not to be intimidating. I thought I had been good about that lately, and she had said I have. Perhaps not having a plan will help me to not manipulate.

Grandfather and uncle are conscious and stable btw.