Have you run the numbers including the cost of after-school and full-time summer care for three kids? Have you decided that what is best for the kids is to go from having a mom at home to having daycare?

"I'll offer some years of spousal support rather than fund [my kids' mom taking care of them]" sounds mean.

I just hope that what is best for the kids is driving your thought process there.

Adinva 51, S20, S18
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9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
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