Hi Portia! Thanks for stopping by. Seems like there isn't much traffic down here in Piecing. I get that more attention is needed by those folks still in crisis mode.
Our C had suggested we start slow and rebuild our relationship without the day to day struggles that come with reestablishing a household together. We both are on the same page to make this work but I think we both overestimated our abilities to cope with the stress of his move, our relationship, the unresolved issues we are still working on in counseling. We were both so overwhelmed by those things that we were not able to effectively even be together without arguing.
Our C knows that even though we have both separately been working on our selves, we still have a lot on both of our plates, my H's father's suicide and his upbringing really just barely scraping the surface. She felt it would be beast for us to maintain separate households, and both have a safe space to be while we are working through our biggest issues. Forcing it to work under the same roof just wasn't working for us.
And, as much as I didn't want it to happen, it really did instantly remove a lot of the extra stressors and resentment that was building. We are much gentler with each other and communicating well, and able to have fun...now that we both can breathe.
I still don't know where we are headed or how we are getting there, but I'm back to taking one step at a time, learning to trust again and remembering how much fun the two of us used to have together.
