Its just a big mess.. Hopefully no contact tomorrow.. I will be in the garage working on the car all weekend, so there wont be much contact this weekend...
Honesty, sincerity, tenderness and trust. A little less time for the rest of the world, And more for the two of us. Kisses each mornin, I love yous at night, Just like it used to be.
What a mess.. At least my Wife has stopped talking about moving back to Texas. Now she is just talking about getting a bigger apartment.. We got screwed on the one she is in now because I only had 1 day to find a place to live in a town that I had never been to before. So hopefully she wil get one that is cheaper.. The place I live is cheaper but its probably not a god idea for her to live so closeto me.. I have got to detach.. Spending time with her has just put me back to square one with detaching.. I dont know what else to do now.. I dont really have any close friendshere so I really have no one to talk to except for the db people and even then its hard because they are going through the same things.. I just need to give up and move on with my life.. I know I can find another Woman but I didnt want another woman I wanted my Wife and family. But it seems that is just a pipe dream.. She is just too far gone and into herself..
Honesty, sincerity, tenderness and trust. A little less time for the rest of the world, And more for the two of us. Kisses each mornin, I love yous at night, Just like it used to be.
kevin, look back on your threads...yes, the same thing keeps happening over and over again. Honestly, some people can see where you efforts are not going to be worth it, but if you see some hope at all, you have to really put DBing into practice...not for one day, not even for a week, but for a good long while. You say you want to move on...that is what you should do, but you can move on and DB at the same time. She is yanking your chain by telling you she is moving, getting a new apartment, yada, yada, yada...and she wants a rise out of you, IMO. And it is working. Like a month ago, you are all over the place...again. You are going to have to tell yourself to not react to what she tells you. You are going to have to tell yourself you cannot be called on a whim with you diving into her demands just because she needs you. From here on out, you know what this is going lead to. You are going in circles. I wouldn't blame you one bit for REALLY moving on, but this is not my sitch, it is yours, and it is clear you are hurting but want the M desperately and don't know what to do. So don't do anything. Make some friends, do other things, and make yourself get out there. Put her on the backburner...and when she starts her neediness, just remember what happened the last time it happened...she told you to get your own life. So do it.
Honesty, sincerity, tenderness and trust. A little less time for the rest of the world, And more for the two of us. Kisses each mornin, I love yous at night, Just like it used to be.
Well when you have lost everything, you dont fear anything anymore.. Life is getting good. I have given up on the wife and am just living life one day at a time.. Moving on... Taxes came back today so I am finally caught up on my bills.. So I can afford to get some new clothes and actually get out of the house.. Cant wait...
Honesty, sincerity, tenderness and trust. A little less time for the rest of the world, And more for the two of us. Kisses each mornin, I love yous at night, Just like it used to be.
Quote: One day at a time, one step at a time, one project at a time. A life is rebuilt.
WOW PAM!!! That is one he!! of a quote !! Paste that on your mirror, your comp, the dog crates, the windows...heck anywhere that a post-it note will stick!!!!
That quote sums it up pretty aptly Kevin.
YOU know what works and what doesn't...as long as you continue to allow yourself to be CONTROLLED by W though you are going to have just more of what DOESN'T. You control you...that is the only guaranteed thing in the whole sitch.
You keep asking for help in putting together a game plan...no one can TELL you how to do that, each sitch IS different. All yo can do is apply yourself to some of the advice that has been given and find out for yourself what will work and what won't. Like lettie said though...you have to do it for more then a few hours a day or a week. Sometimes the babysteps can only be measured in millimeters and might take MONTHS to come to full fruition...but even a millimeter forward is better then a mile back.
Hugz, Zoo
"If patience is worth anything, it must endure to the end of time. And a living faith will last in the midst of the blackest storm."
- Mahatma Gandhi
