Im in a bit of a stalling mode right now, after W mentioned she would like to pay $4000 for a lawyers retainer for this week. Now, this would seriously hurt us financially and leave me with not much to handle things on my side legally. Ive been able to talk to her about mediation instead, where we would work with a network of attorneys and counselors that would work amicably and keep most of the stuff out of the courts. Thus keeping the cost down.

Now the problem with this is this may cause the whole thing to move faster, which I certainly dont want as I'm hoping time will start to heal some of the hurt.

Does anyone have any experience with this at all?

M: 43
W: 43
Married: 17 Together: 20
BD: 4/8/13 no legal or physical S as of yet
3 kids: S:14 D:13 D:9
W admitted EA: 5/5/13
Mediation started: 6/3/13
W says EA is done: 6/30/13 - still interested in D