Hit hard still taking another step forward.

[sayitaintso]

Do I go dim and let it settle and see what happens?
Do I try to get the week off work maybe and expect nothing in return?

What do you want to do?

Why?

Who are you doing this for?


I don't have the backround of your sitch but I would go dim and give this some time. She is reacting emotionally to a situation like a typical was.

If I follow through and give her the week off could be seen as weak because I caved.
If I don't I'm the spiteful a**hole.

Your projecting here.

And mind reading what your wife may think or feel.



You seem to be struggling with making decisions lately and I get it, trust me.

The thinking out what will happen if you do A vs. B vs. C and so on and so forth is draining.

It took me a long time to get to a point to base my decisions on what I thought was best for me and my kids.

And not to get a reaction or avoid a reaction from my stbx.

I came to see that as trying to control and manipulate the situation and I have no interest in doing that.

Do what is best for you T. Regardless of how it effects your W.