When we are in this situation, our minds will always fill in the worst possible interpretation of what we learn, as often we only get a little bit of info and write a book around it in our heads.
While it is possible that W has been in contact with old OM for the last 8 years, it's more likely that she is scared facing legal separation and seeking to line up "insurance" that people will be there to comfort her when she needs it. Therefore, it's likely that she's using this guy to be her backburner insurance plan versus truly caring for him right now.
The point is, don't torture yourself with could have beens. If she was unfaithful for 8 years you would have sensed it and known it in your heart at the time.
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Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
