More questions and confusion for this LBS

[mrtwopointfour]

Actions will. Words may be deceitful but deeds don't lie. Your road to possibly getting back into her heart is through her eyes, NOT her ears.

Good luck, Negril, I've got a lot of faith in you.

So what does this mean? how can you show someone your unconditional love and that I have changed without ever seeing her?
or do you mean my actions of letting her go? giving her space but doing it without the arguing and pressure?

I think what P4L is saying is, no matter what you say in words there is no proof to her that they are not just words. Think of politics and elections. How many times do you really believe what you are being told before an election, just to win your vote. Half the time you never see them stick to their word. Now if they actually did what they said rather than just telling you, then you would start to believe in them, and think they really meant what they said. Maybe this is not a good analogy, but basically what ever you want to show or change, do it, don't just say it.

As for W not seeing changes. Well this is where its important that the changes are for you, not her. If they are for you, you will become a better, stronger, more positive person. Not only will you know this, other people will notice - people that may pass this onto your W, and when you do see your W you will not have to try and prove anything, because you will be a changed person, and she will notice this. She has lived with you for years, so she will know with minutes of seeing you that something has changed and she will be curious.

I know what you are going through, its tough, and no matter how much you think you are detached something will always catch off guard until you are fully detached.