Hit hard still taking another step forward.

[T1000]

I nearly texted back:

I didn't go out of my way to be spiteful. I just wasn't interested in helping you.
You get EVERY weekend off, why do you need a week off two.
I haven't had a day of anything for over 8 months!

I obviously didn't but my head went there.

[T1000]

I have preliminary checked at work and I could feasibly get the week off.

[jp787]

Do I go dim and let it settle and see what happens?
Do I try to get the week off work maybe and expect nothing in return?

Yes to both

[jp787]

I obviously didn't but my head went there.

Good

[T1000]

If I follow through and give her the week off could be seen as weak because I caved.
If I don't I'm the spiteful a**hole.

Can you tell I'm manic about this!?!

[PatientMan]

Lots of women say they don't like a-holes, but still end up picking the a-hole. Between the two choices you have given yourself, be the a-hole.

-PM

[jp787]

If I follow through and give her the week off could be seen as weak because I caved.
If I don't I'm the spiteful a**hole.

Can you tell I'm manic about this!?!

IMO I don't see it as caving. In her mind you agreed to it. If you can get it off great, if not then you tried.

You both need to take a break to cool off, but this needs addressed.

Let the work begin

[T1000]

Lots of women say they don't like a-holes, but still end up picking the a-hole. Between the two choices you have given yourself, be the a-hole.

-PM

A lot of my W's issues stem from men (especially father figures) in her life being a-holes.

[T1000]

If I follow through and give her the week off could be seen as weak because I caved.
If I don't I'm the spiteful a**hole.

Can you tell I'm manic about this!?!

IMO I don't see it as caving. In her mind you agreed to it. If you can get it off great, if not then you tried.

You both need to take a break to cool off, but this needs addressed.

Let the work begin

I have asked what dates she wants.

See what comes back.

In her mind I did agree to it.

I feel like doing this just so I can get past her going on the girly vacation. Whether I'm with her or not it's something to achieve on my end.

Lol, the work never ends!

[sayitaintso]

Do I go dim and let it settle and see what happens?
Do I try to get the week off work maybe and expect nothing in return?

What do you want to do?

Why?

Who are you doing this for?


I don't have the backround of your sitch but I would go dim and give this some time. She is reacting emotionally to a situation like a typical was.

If I follow through and give her the week off could be seen as weak because I caved.
If I don't I'm the spiteful a**hole.

Your projecting here.

And mind reading what your wife may think or feel.



You seem to be struggling with making decisions lately and I get it, trust me.

The thinking out what will happen if you do A vs. B vs. C and so on and so forth is draining.

It took me a long time to get to a point to base my decisions on what I thought was best for me and my kids.

And not to get a reaction or avoid a reaction from my stbx.

I came to see that as trying to control and manipulate the situation and I have no interest in doing that.

Do what is best for you T. Regardless of how it effects your W.