Hit hard still taking another step forward.

[T1000]

Not a good day.

Text:
10:09, 15 May - W: Just double checking you are able to still have the kids for a week at the end of June?
10:28, 15 May - T1000: Sorry no I can't, not unless someone cancels a holiday.
10:31, 15 May - W: Seriously??? I booked that time slot with you months in advance
10:38, 15 May - T1000: You asked me. I never said I could do it.
10:38, 15 May - W: Erm....yes you did!!
10:53, 15 May - T1000: I said possibly the end of June.
10:56, 15 May - W: Right well I can't have you stay over next week. Just checked my diary and I've got too much on. Feel free to pop down on Tuesday to see the kids on your birthday!
10:57, 15 May - W: Thanks for doing that to me....reminds me why how sneaky you are!

I rang her and left this message or something very similar.

Went to voicemail
"Hi,

I didn't want to send this via text.

When you asked me for the week off I was conflicted. I was confused over the whole valentines thing.
You told me you were moving on with your life and I should do the same.
As time went on and the more I found out about things that were happening in April the more angry and resentful I became.
I thought why should I move my life around to suit you?
You never followed up and confirmed any plans. I didn't even know if you were still going.

(she has a habit of planning things and never following through and/or expecting everything to fall into place for her.)

I am sorry if I have spoiled your plans.

April was a very hard month for me and how I felt at the time was how I felt.

I understand if you want to cancel next week. I hope you don't, I was looking forward to connecting with you more and spending time with the kids as a family."
End of voicemail.

Text:
12:56, 15 May - T1000: I have left you a voice mail.
13:01, 15 May - W: Just goes to prove that you went out of your way to be spiteful. I needed the break and it was the only time I could go away with my friends. It's fine. You give me a date that works around you and I'll find someone else to go on holiday with me. As far as next week is concerned I'm just too angry to let you stay here so you will just have to make your own plans. I'm done. You will NEVER change!!
13:06, 15 May - T1000: Cant you understand where I was 4 weeks ago!?!?
I have changed and I will continue to grow, it takes time.
13:08, 15 May - W: No. Things will never change.
End of text.

The annoying thing is that I'm dying to point out to her is that she is angry right now so she has cancelled next week. I was angry in April so I didn't want to do anything for her. She is doing the same thing that she is angry at me for!!

I haven't sent anything back. I could try to get the week off. I feel like I should to show that I would do it now. Pat of me wants to just to get it over with. The insecure side of me never liked the idea of her going on a girly holiday.

Her response and being totally unwilling to understand how I felt is very alarming. I know she is angry right now and she will calm somewhat.

Do I go dim and let it settle and see what happens?
Do I try to get the week off work maybe and expect nothing in return?