What you are asking seems to be, is the reality of moving there going to match up to the fantasy that she has of moving there. The answer is no, but nothing could live up to that fantasy at this point. I would have to get a great job, could it be better than mine? Maybe. The kids have great schools now and they would have to go to public in new city (additional $15k/year or so), plus they would have to make new friends. Could they? Of course, but I worry about them not getting attached to anyone after moving so often.
But, I love this city and have many close friends there. And yes, they have lives and living there is very different than visiting once or twice a year. Have tried to explain this to W after she returned from her visit a few weeks ago and saw so many of our close friends that weekend. This is not going to be the norm, clearly.
CB
Me; 42, W; 43 M; 16 yrs S12, D9
3/13 - "I want to move to XYZ City (four hours away) and it might be without you, not sure" 5/13 - "Not sure I meant that"
