I'm so sorry you had to deal w/h and his crazy making behavior. You did a nice job of remaining calm, listening and validating. He so wanted you to get up in arms over things and you didn't. I knew he wouldn't be happy w/your responses, but you can't accept things at face value or agree to things that aren't in the best interest for you or your boys.

I do think you need to see legal counsel just to have a better understanding of what your rights are. Mediation is okay, but I've always leaned toward lawyers when it comes to settling up business affairs such as the ending of marriages.

Please do not second guess yourself...you did very well today. Your h is definitely circling earth and doesn't know what he wants in the way of living his life. Some day he will regret his choices.

Please take care of yourself.

Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.