Crazy little thing called MLC

[Raine]

T what your IC said to you makes incredible sense in my sitch too. It's just interesting how nothing happens how we expect it might. The have no expectations isn't just about don't expect positive things to continue, it's that everything is happening on a unpredictable timeline and the same event happening at two different times could result in completely different outcomes.

I didn't think me asking H about seeing OW1 would have any impact. And maybe it didn't. Maybe the impact was i was hurt. Maybe it was i wouldn't hug him. Maybe it was that I didn't ask anything more or bring up anything more, but i was still friendly to him. Maybe seeing a pic of me with the boys on mothers day. Who knows. Maybe it has nothing to do with anything I've done or anything involving me.

I think he may have ended it with OW1 last night. Not that he wouldn't circle back to her in the future, but he may have done what he did with OW3&4: short talk, let them down easy, cut contact. Kind of interesting to me that he slowly let them all go, in reverse. Time will have to tell on this one. He has made plans to be here
Every night except one this week. Big change. He asked if he could bring a group of new friends over to hang out one night too. Interesting. He was also there today to get son from school without messaging me to tell me or ask if I needed him to.

I'm staying the same. Not contacting in anyway. Nothing coming from me. He didn't try to hug me tonight and hard to stop myself from initiating it. He also called me hon tonight and I about melted. He has only called me by my name, no pet names for a very long time.

T I can also relate H to your wife with the feelings of missing out. He was very shy growing up. He always wishes he had the confidence back then. I felt like I did enough, more than I wanted. I just wanted the full thing:love, romance, marriage, friendship, family.