You're doing great Val! Continue focusing on yourself and just allow things to fall into place. You're also allowing things to happen on their own and finding comfort, reassurance elsewhere not with her.

I tend to beat myself up if I make mistakes. I struggle with wanting to be perfect. At my last IC session she told me to make a list of what being perfect means to me. I got a long list... I'll let you know what her next step is for me with this list.


M 42 H 39
T10 (-2yrs separation)
S8 D5
DD 7/30/11 (EA&PA)
Reconciled 6/2013
Separation in works 1/2017