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I am still looking for useful ideas for my game plan..


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geez I am antsy today... Cant wait till payday... I need to get out of this house... My off days are so boring and lonely... I get my son but there is little adult interaction..


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kevin, not only are you going to have to come up with a game plan, your'e gonna have to stick to it I am afraid, especially after reading your last go round. Not trying to be harsh, but the same thing keeps happening. You can't be a security blanket anymore; it's an awfully comfortable place to be at times (when things are going your way), but not so good when you hear things from her that are completely the opposite the way you want thing to go. You know what I mean?

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yeah your right... I need a good game plan.. HELP ME !!!!!


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First of all, did you read Jake1974's thread? How about Wiley's? Take the time to do this...you will learn a great deal of how you need to start handling you conversations with her. She has said what she wanted to say to you, and I still say for her to ask you to be intimate with her and then the next day say "oh, by the way, you should go and date" or "move on" or "can't do this anymore" should tell you what NOT to do. You can start by saying, next time you see this beginning to happen, "well, you know I've been thinking about what happened the last few times we were together. As you said, maybe we don't need this to happen right now. We have children to see to, and let's keep it at that for the time being." Act like you have come to terms with what it happening and be as upbeat as you can be. This I know -- as soon as they start to lose their control, they become angry, then needy, and then when they find out how easy it is to regain it, well, the same old thing happens usually. I think something has to change in the way YOU are handling this sitch, because I don't think she will, at least for now. Who knows what they are thinking?

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I did read the threads you suggested.. I was mysterious this weekend. I went out saturday night but then I stopped by W's on my way home and stayed the night and ...
I stayed Friday night too. We watched movies together.


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W said she is thinking.. Says she has thought it out a million ways to stay together but it just doesnt work out..
She is in love with om..What did om do for Vday?? Nothing for her.. No roses.. nothing... I got her some roses and an angel and a blushing teddy bears from Hallmark and a non lovey dovey card..
Probably not the best dbing but its what my heart wanted to do, and sometimes you just have to follow your heart..


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Kevin, you should do whatever your heart tells you to do. But when something happens, you need to ultimately remember that you made the decision, not her, to handle the sitch the way you wanted to. Sounds like she is being upfront with you, so the way you handle it is YOUR responsibility. You know what works and what doesn't. But you never know, maybe she will start appreciating what you do for her. I'm just not sure your doing all of these things, even for Valentine's Day, will get her away from OM, because he seems somewhat unattainable to her. Funny how some are attracted to those who do the least for them...but it does happen...sort of like DBing...especially when they don't HAVE them like they want them. It is attractive to them. This is your M and you should do what you feel. Good luck to you.

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Hi Kevin,

I think Lettie has been giving you some really good advice here.

Glad you had a good weekend.


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so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
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Why the hell do I keep going down those cheeseless tunnels.. I keep getting the same results.... what the hell is wrong with me.. I have women all over me all the time but yet I wont anything to do with them, because I am in love with a crazy woman that doesnt give a sh$t about me.. Dont I deserve to be loved too..
I am through.. Little to no contact with my W anymore.. Time to let her see that the K-train is leaving the station..
UUUUGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


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