It may have been a backslide, but I was stating my boundary that I love him and if he is not prepared to R, or work towards it, I will let him go now. I am moving forward. As he has noticed that I have distanced in the business, and he wondered (this is how the convo started). When I suggested this, he did seem to back peddle a bit as he kept saying he isn't sure about anything. I think this is what he means about the positives... can I ask?

He has said he has cried, wakes up in the night in the dark wandering back to the dark bedroom, upset and alone. My MD card to his mom made him cry too. He understands my comments about "family" and traditions that I am greatful for. How I will miss them.

He did say alot of positives too. I am still trying to recall them. He did talk about us living together in the future, just not THAT house. He is firm about that.

The part about me having a house and car, is about him relieving his guilt of never giving them to me. Which is why he now, insists on paying me first (outstanding salary, loans), before taking any for himself. We are in a position now to do begin to do this...

He has not taken any pictures or my belongings down as he wants to respect my things (and my exh did that years ago and it is a sore spot, felt like a push out). He isn't even convinced that he wants to renovate, because he wants to move out... but cannot, due to the property and its involvement to our business. I suggested that we reno temporary until we went on our own (original plan), but he doesn't see it as a BIG enough change. If you recall, he wants BIG CHANGES!

M:46 H:49 T:20yrs
myD:22
H distant summer/12
H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12
BD: Dec 2/12
asked me begin to move end of Jan/13
moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff)
"agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)