we own a business - pt 9 ... its about me!

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Magic,
I'm sorry you were hurt today, but we all have tried to warn you that if you push and continue to push, he will come out swinging and you would not like what you would hear.

For now, I think the message has clearly been stated, i.e., he's not interested in a sexual relationship w/you and possibly w/anyone at the moment. He's not "in love" at the moment and these are his feelings to own and you have to respect him for that. There's nothing you can do to convince him otherwise. His rationale is rather odd, i.e., he wants to buy a house and be independent. That tells me he wants to be on his own. He wants you to have a nice car...why? Because it's his way of appeasing his guilt for what he's done and continues to do. It's also called pulling the wool over your eyes, because he wants you to think that he cares about you so that you don't really see what is happening.

His actions are clear, i.e., he wants your belongings packed up and moved out of the way. He has stated that the pictures of the family have hurt him and I am guessing he's taking them down as well. Notice how he's leaving d22's bedroom intact? For now, he doesn't want the reminders of you in his line of vision. He definitely wants to keep the business and his personal life separate and he has clearly drawn the line in the sand about his personal living arrangmenets. This is typical of someone in mlc or a spouse that walks away from a relationship, i.e., they actually had mentally moved on loing before the BD and didn't bother to tell us that they had.

We aren't mind readers and no one truly knows what he meant by his text to you. I'm going to go out a limb and say that maybe, what he's referring to as a positive is the fact that he is renovating his home and possibly looking down the road to sell it or the fact that everything is out in the open now and you know where he stands in the relationship. It's hard to say, but my advice is to leave him alone.

Now, about the legalities of your relationship. Earlier you posted that you and your business partner are not married. If you do not have a marriage license, you will need to check w/your state to see how common law marriages would be handled when it comes to finances and the business. It is very important that you do this and please, do not think he will be fair to you. After what happened today, I would strongly urge you to seek legal counsel to find out what you would be entitled to if this separation should continue into going your separate ways permantely.

For once, please listen to us and get some legal advice. Your SO has stated that he's not going to give you a commitment...you now need to protect all that you have worked so hard for. If you don't, you will have no one to blame but yourself.

Now, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and begin planning how you are going to GAL. It's time to start moving forward and turning the focus back on to YOU.