I like the therapist's plan. I took a mgmt training course where they did personality assessment of all the participants, and divided the group according to people who are naturally inclined to speak up and lead, and people who are naturally inclined to remain silent and follow. From that, they made small teams with equal numbers of leaders and followers in each.

Then they did an exercise where they gave the groups a problem to solve. The leaders weren't allowed to say anything but "yes" or "no", and the followers had to drive to resolution.

I was in the leader group and it was a terribly frustrating experience -- I had to sit there watching the followers staring at each other not saying a word for over 10 minutes.

If you can do this exercise according to her rules you WILL emerge a better person, and your relationship will be improved, I have no question, but I also know you'll find it frustrating!

Accuray

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015