My first foray into internet forums... it's amazing what living with MLC can drive you to!
Having looked at many forums, and read many stories, I have ended up here because although I need to survive this, I also want to save our relationship (if that is possible). Very briefly we have been together 20 years, although have never married. Have no kids, but a very large dog. A beautiful home and what, until he dropped "the speech" on me 15th July 2012, I believed to be a happy relationship. However it would appear I was wrong on that account (according to him) and I now live (occasionally) with a strange alien. That is until we sell our home. Amongst the many weird and wonderful things he has said and done over the past months, the one constant has always been... " sell the house, give you some money to start again, and I will be happy... " or variations of the same thing.
I am certain I can learn so much from you all here, I have read some of your stories/advice BUT whilst a divorce is not on the cards, saving our relationship is. My problem today is the following...
He has insisted from day one that we sell the house and go our separate ways. I am assuming (rightly or wrongly) that this is his version of our "divorce", the house is the one thing that is holding us together legally. Whilst I resisted initially I (having read all your advice) stepped back and let him go ahead listing the property, hoping that in this economic climate it would take so long to sell we may have time on our side to get through this. I was wrong. He is still deep in MLC and we have had an offer on the house. My problem is this - he is willing to accept a low offer on the house to get rid of it quickly and to get this "thing" over with so he can move on. He says it wont affect how much I get, but I find it difficult to "give" our home away at less than the market value. He is willing to walk away with nothing just to be able to walk away - even though he is spending money we don't have like its going out of fashion. Should I just go with the flow - is it the MLC that will stop me being able to reason with him? I also worry that once the sale goes through that "we" will be over. I will move back to be near my family (who are 100's of miles away) and he plans on staying here with his new 'friends'.
I could go on and on and on... but this seems very long for a first post, and could get confusing (just like my head!!).
