Have you heard “I want to be independent” and/or “Discover who I am”? I have. We represent their “old” life, the old M... that they now want to run from. Time is running short in their mind too, hence the crises to “Fix” Things, and get on track…
W: “In 20 years I’ll be 70!!!” “In 30 years I’ll be almost as old as my Mom was when she died!” “I feel like I need to stop existing and start living.”
Yes, yes, and yes. In fact my W has said 'i could be dead in 5 years, i need to get on with my new life!' and I have also heard 'my mum died when she was XYZ that means I only have XYZ left'
She has also said 'i don't know who i am any more' and 'i need to be my own person, and want to be independent'.
Me: 38 W: 35 M: 9Yrs T: 15Yrs S8 D5 BD: Feb 13 Still Living Together
I feel like I'm in thick forest, I'm slowly drawing a map of the way out, but not sure yet which side of the forest I will emerge.
