Would I be out of line sending her a message asking her not to attend any of the events we are putting on? I mean for Gods sake, she wanted to go away....GO AWAY ALREADY! Let me start my new future without looking at her face everytime I turn around. It makes detaching almost impossible for me. I see her coming and going and visiting and socializing. It's too much!
Well I can see your point, it's tough to detach when you're around her all the time. But on the other hand if you tell her not to go she will likely perceive you as being petty and vindictive towards her, and can you really stop her from going anyway? On the plus side, since you'll be DJ'ing you won't be able to watch D, so if your W is there then it's a way for D to be there too and you won't have to worry about watching her yourself. I guess I'd suggest just letting her go, and you showing a ton of PMA, confidence and contentment. Maybe she'll see you there having fun and it might sow some seeds of interest. Show her someone who is moving on and happy in life regardless of whether or not she's part of it.
