Personally, I'm a believer in the power of one way contact. After a long enough period of NC, and once I got antsy enough, I'd send a simple, friendly email or text like "Hi, I hope things are going well for you".
No question(s), no big R statements, no pressure for them to even reply. Then just wait and see what happens. This cracks the door just a bit, and could offer some insight as to where they are.
I do believe there is a time for NC, and maybe that time is now for you.
The thing about no contact at all though, is that to me it could smack of "teaching them a lesson", which of course is not the signal we want to send.
Do you disagree with the others, then that I should wait until July? I have not followed your whole thread but I noticed from your signature that you both still live in the same house? Was there a OM involved? I am jut wondering how you think those factors may have affected your actions. Obviously living in the same house indicates a door being somewhat open. My xSO is far away and we have not had contact in about six weeks.
I really am interested in others' perspective.
The real truth is that the NC is for me right now. I am exhausted and burnt from touching the hot stove. I am more frightened of what I may hear from him if I do contact him. Until that fear subsides, I do not want to risk any more of my mental health. I probably should not think negatively, but while we were in contact, he kept talking of moving. I know his MLC pattern well enough to suspect he is thinking of moving in with GF. I just do not want to know.
