DBing, GALing and living oh my!

[cbtdad]

Thanks JP!
I'm following on your new thread. You can do this.
You have all the power to make those changes. Be the best example possible for your children.
It's good to see you an your wife communicating about it.
One thing our therapist told us yesterday is that communication between parents is key during separation and after divorce. The kids can come out ok if the parents communicate well. She said the problem is most parents end up his situation because they were bad at communicating to begin with. So it's something that has to be learned.
My therapist calls me a "steamroller" and that I just talk at people an try to control. Thankfully she told me W yesterday that I have come a long ways in 5 months. W agreed. Yay! Lol
She also said wife avoids things. She couldn't be more right on that for sure.
Anyways therapist have us two things to work on for communication and these are going I be tough for both of us.
1. I have to say 3 sentences to wife and then shut up! No questions at all!
W has to say 3 sentences to me while looking me in the eye and saying my name
That one won't be so bad
2. Wants us to spend 20 mins together in same room. No tv, no phones. No books. Music can be playing. For those 20 mins I can't say a word and she has to stay and can't walk out of room.
Every other day for 2 weeks
This one is gonna be impossible for me, but I'm looking forward to the challenge