Still Struggling and need help #3

[CharlieBrown]

So yesterday I talked to her best friend again (we had to cut our morning discussion short because I had a meeting I had to get into). Most of the discussion focused on her opinion, from her 4 hours with W Sunday, that W doesn't see this as a mutual issue and that she is not taking therapy seriously. I suspected this, and even brought it up in therapy last week, but W said all the right things there. She told her friend she is going because I having been changing for the better and she wants me to keep going. Thing is, as you all know, if both sides aren't being open and digging deep, therapy never moves past small talk level.

I texted our therapist this morning and he called me back for a few minutes. He said that this is perfectly normal and that he already had me pegged as someone that wants to move through a process and see progress as a milestone, and W pegged as a conflict-avoider. Again, perfectly normal and we are doing well at this stage. The key is, we need to stick with it and we will get to the tougher stuff. I told him I trust him (and I do) and I would relax and breathe now.

One test will be this week. We have an appointment Thursday at 2-3. W gets off work at 2 and kids don't get home until 3, so this is perfect, but, last night she said her parents were coming to town to help her plant her flowers. They are coming Thursday afternoon and staying for dinner, I suspect W forgot about our therapy appointment and will try to get out of it. Hopefully not...

CB