I want him to be happy

[stilllookingup]

Adinva, Thank you so much. If my friends bring it up again I’ll be much firm. I felt bad shutting them down because I know they want to help. But if they are good friends they should respect my decision. My best friend and another friend never say anything and in the beginning I felt I wanted them to suggest anything but actually now I’m grateful now they didn’t.

I see on other threads people talk about mind-reading but I guess I don’t realize I’m doing the exact same thing until I’m told. It’s so much easier to ready other people’s sitchs and comment but when it comes to your own sitch, all of a sudden everything is a question.

I worry because I’ve seen threads where some LBS went dim and their WAS thought LBS was done with them they started dating.
It might have nothing to do it but I guess that’s why I worry. I also worry because I’m not sure if he knows I’m not going anywhere. I’m not good with words. Especially when I’m countered by him like Sunday I’d be so quiet. There were million things I wanted to say but I think too much and I can’t even say “I can’t talk about it now but can we talk later?” Like I said in my last post I did try my best and tell him it was not about how I found about the girl he’s dating, but I thought we were not gonna see other people. (We didn’t have S agreement or anything so this S is very unofficial) I just assumed that married people don’t date even if we are separated, at least in my culture it’s not acceptable. But I’m in U.S and when I google on the subject it’s almost widely accepted that separated people date. The last and only thing I could say to him was “I didn't want to say anything to you since last year because I didn't want to overwhelm you but my feelings haven’t been changed” I wonder hard if that was enough to let him know I still want to work on our m.

What should I have said?