Suckerpunch down to the wire

[adinva]

I was thinking similarly, that SP has a lawyer. Lawyer's job is to figure out what W is entitled to legally. All this spinning around about what W deserves or not is just idle spinning with a bunch of non-attorneys in the peanut gallery. What W is not entitled to, W will probably not get whether she thinks she deserves it or not. This isn't a subjective decision. I find when the outcome depends on some input that I don't have yet (ie, the lawyer's advice and action), it is counterproductive to spin around with what-ifs and wherefores.

SP you do seem really really angry. Completely separately from the financial and legal outcome of this, you'll need to find a way to work through that if you want to be a person who isn't angry. It's not about the world conspiring to make you happy or angry. Most peaceful people have good reason to be angry just as most angry people do. Independent of the details, there's a choice and an intention to release what seems unfair. I'm in the process of trying to do that too, and some days I do better than others. I'd still like to be on record as the good one who was unfairly treated, but that doesn't get me where I want to go in life.