For starters, you are going to have to DETACH from her, not your son, but her, yes...be nice, but cut your conversations that do not include your son short. Don't be rude, but be evasive. You are living apart...she doesn't need to know where you are at all times. Start this now...don't make it obvious what you are doing, but try to be upbeat (not sickingly so, but positive). Kevin, I'm not saying this WILL work, but you know the other way will not either. Again, read jake's thread. He is handling this like a pro...get some insight as to how he handles his R with W. Wiley's thread shows some good DBing...read it. I might not be perfect, but I could follow their lead and become a very good actress...you can too. When she wants to go to Walmart, tell her you can't, think of something...now, she is used to you saying yes...and no, you won't be able to cut her off completely, but enough to make her see that you are changing, doing for yourself...if son needs things, YOU take him. Maybe some others will jump in here and add to this...I am no expert, and it is impossible to see how these things turn out, but it will help you too move ahead with your life. Do you have friends? Start doing a few things with them when you don't have your son. Keep yourself busy, or at least as much as you can. Does this make sense to you?
