Figure out who YOU want to be. Be committed to do the work to become that person, and don't let anyone steer you off course.
That's the high level view, and there's lower level detail and reasoning behind it, but at times the details can muddy up the water or be overwhelming in the moment.
Just my $0.02 for now. I can expound at a later time.
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.