kevin, is your W reciprocating what you do for her? Is she being a W to you? Haven't you ever seen someone you know, in a R, being taken for granted? That's what happens when we do too much for someone...yes, I have been the queen of that in my lifetime. I know, two wrongs don't make a right, but the bottom line is this...she chose to move out. She chose to separate from you...she has told you over and over again that you need to move...does she really mean it? Probably not. Tell me what you are doing, as a H and being there for her time and time again, is doing the R some good? You have admitted to needing to detach...what do you think detachment is? Taking the "easy" route, the path of least resistance, does not always work. Read what other people in these kinds of sitches are doing...kevin, if you continue like this, do you think anything will change? Don't we wish that being a nice person, doing things for others, was the magic wand in R's! Maybe you need a serious gameplan here...not easy, no. But might be necessary.
