Being patient.

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I'm not sure if I need to do anything more or different. We are "normal" except for the physical part. Unfortunately, the physical part is what makes a marriage more than a friendship. It's truly all that's lacking. It still has me at times thinking she's going to say ok I'm going to start sleeping at home so make room. It's too normal at times.

I'd love to have thoughts on what I can do to make W attracted to me, or is it a process that the mlcer goes through where it comes naturally. I don't want y'all to think I sit around worrying about it, but I just don't understand how they change their feelings toward us.

MtnMan - a very good question. Afraid I can't answer it at all, as I feel i am the same place.

We are getting along like we did years ago, relaxed, having fun (at times), taking kids out together, going to stores with each other etc. And then when the sun sets we go our own way, watch TV in our own rooms, sleep in our own rooms, W looks at new furniture for her 'new home'! From the outside people who don't know must think we are we have the perfect R.

Strange that we are both feeling this and experiencing this following death of our W's parent. I think I said before i think this is triggered by my W's mother's passing away.