My own H was the one to request the D and it did give me the perfect opportunity to show him what his life would be like with out me.
It's been mentioned many times that some MLC'ers just need to "see it through". See what's out there and give it a shot. How can I tell if my W is one of 'em?
Cause if she is, I plan to gently suggest she get on with it already.
On the other hand, If I could see there was a decent chance of things turning around without her running off, I could more easily wait this out while she is here, and acting cool to me. How can I find out if she is softening up? You know, without waiting forever.
It's difficult to see any progress, when you're in the middle of it all and things move so slowly. (or not at all?) What is she doing indeed!
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He even put on his list of "pros" for returning, that all his "stuff" would be his-- we wouldn't have to divide and sell, etc.
W: (many months ago) "One thing for sure, everyone needs shelter and food."
M: "Yay! You're still here because I help supply a nice home and good meals!" Yippie me! (dramatization, may not have been actually vocalized)
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we are behind you every step of the way, no matter what choices you make
Thanks so much RH, your help means a lot to me.
Everyone: So how best to figure out where she is regarding all this? Even if she's not sure herself, she's got to have some thoughts in her head. We get along well, she's content to stay here, and is not blaming me for anything. I'm considering just coming out and asking her. Thoughts?
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
